I have been married to my hubby for almost 10 years. We married a week after knowing each other, and when we got pregnant he was mean, I’m talking abusive words never hit me, but it seemed like I never did anything right.

Things stayed the same until I had my twins, and then I had 4 kids. I had to see a therapist because when I was a kid I was sexually abused and when my daughter turned 5 I started to have flash backs. Anyways I fixed my self, went to church, therapy, and now I started school again. He on the other hand, went from a great paying job, to a low paying job, and then to no job.

Now we had an argument, and he told me that I wasant doing nothing in the house, not feeding the kids (not true, I was tired from school and offered them cereal), and not watching out for the dog. I’ve been going to school meetings, getting supplies for school, and grocery shopping, all this while waking up extra early so I cant comb the girls hair, making sure they have clean clothes ect. ect. All he does is buy storage units, and he says he already does sooo much by making sure the kids were in the bus.

Today he told me why I hadant put up the clothes that he finished washing, and I told him that I was busy last night, I gave the dog a bath, and cooked dinner. He told me that I have to this in between the things that I do….. I said “ok” but then I asked him why dosent he cook dinner 2 x week so I can catch up with my things, he said ” I already do too much.”

Point is, he left cuz he gave me an alternative after I asked him for more help, “Either clean the house or I leave”

I told him to leave……

Now I am angry cuz he chose his freaking pride over helping me with OUR kids!!!!

advice please.
keep in mind that the house looks dirty because he brings all the things that he finds in the storage units, home.